The #SupportThePuff movement has caused us to have very necessary dialogs about who we are as people of color and how we see ourselves. Some of us have been taught to discount ourselves so much that any discussion about ourselves we consider to be overblown, or doing too much. But the discussion about how we see ourselves when we look at our reflection is far deeper than just fashion or style. Many of us do not understand how the messages we have been taught either directly or indirectly about our hair, our skin color, our skin tone, our facial features, etc factor in to how we treat ourselves and how we treat one another. Poor self-esteem is among the root causes of many of the life-altering mistakes we make. Many of us are destroying ourselves trying to look “right” in the eyes of others, and so many of us are just not comfortable in our own skin.
Think about the judgments you make about yourself and others based on color, hair and natural features. Think about how you put yourself or others down, or how you elevate yourself and others above others based on those same things. Think about what you are teaching your children about themselves based on these mindsets. And now, think about and know this – you are worthy, you are acceptable, you deserve respect & you are wonderfully made, no matter your hair texture, your skin tone or your features. No – lighter skin is not better than darker skin. No, straighter or softer hair is not better than kinky hair. No, a straighter nose and thinner lips are not better than full lips and a broader nose. No matter which of these you have, you are special, unique and worthy of love. Those negative ideas you have learned about yourself and others – unlearn them. It may be hard to face the truths about the lies we have been taught, but the power of the truth will set you free. Where there is true education, there is liberation. #SupportThePuff